Wednesday, May 8, 2013

To Thine Own Self Be True

I'm almost done writing Saturday's post. I jumped ahead, because it looks like a nice and easy short prompt. But then I got stuck trying to make it pretty, and gargh, I'm so frustrated. This whole blogging every day is HARD, y'all.

I have so much advice, y'all. Like learn a second language. Try new things. Only engage in consensual sexual behavior. Visit Paris.

But I want to offer more general advice, for all people, at any age, in any stage of life.

What's so cool about literature is how open to interpretation it is. Shakespeare wrote "To thine own self be true" in Hamlet, through the voice of Polonius, speaking to his son Laertes. (Yes, I googled all of this).

My interpretation is this:

Be honest with yourself. Saving coitus for marriage is an arbitrary line along a sexual spectrum, but saving a sexual experience for only my husband is important to me.

Do your own thing. I blog about virginity.

Listen to the counsel of others, but then make your own decisions. My youth pastor in undergrad said masturbation is a sexual sin. I prayed about it. I disagree.

Don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has so many more readers than I do... It's hard to follow my own advice sometimes.

Celebrate your uniqueness. I haven't found another blog that focuses on sexy virginity.

Acknowledge your sameness. We all just want to change the world and connect with other people through our writing.

Never lose sight of who you are. According to Beau, I'm perfect.

What advice do you have for me?


  1. Great advice! And I can't even begin to tell you how excited I am to have come across your blog. As a fellow 20-something virgin who probably isn't as "pure" as other 20-something virgins it's nice to find a blog that gets that, and doesn't make me feel like I'm a horrible person because I've made out with boys. Looking forward to reading more of your posts!


    1. I'm so happy to hear that! For so long (and this is pre-Beau, so pre-anything-except-kissing), I felt stuck in the middle of my friends. My fellow virgins had only kissed serious boyfriends or hadn't kissed anyone, and most of them didn't drink a lot or wear revealing clothing. My friends who enjoyed drinking and looking hot and hooking up didn't just have making out hook-ups, but sex hook-ups. Then there was me. Somewhere in-between them all. Luckily, because my friends are awesome, none of them cared that I was in the middle, but it still sometimes felt lonely. It's one of the primary reasons I started this blog. :)

  2. Exactly. When I grew up, even a kiss took away one's virginity.

    1. What a harmful idea to believe! I certainly wanted my first kiss to be special, so I did "save" it, but it ended up being with my best guy friend who I only loved as a friend. It was meaningful, but it was still a hook-up.

  3. This is a great post. I am 30 and was a virgin until I was 28, which was longer than I expected, as I expected to be married sooner. I'm not married to the guy I lost my virginity to yet, but I know he's who I was waiting for and it was worth the wait. I understand the stigma associated with being a virgin, especially as a Christian. People thought I was so weird for waiting so long, but I have no regrets about it. :)


    1. It's definitely not easy waiting. Beau and I aren't married yet, but a lot of the non-sex sex stuff we enjoy we experienced with each other for the first time. Waiting for love was definitely worth it.

      Thanks for commenting!


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