tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post3122370776046148642..comments2024-02-06T10:29:58.974-05:00Comments on Finding My Virginity: My Bikini Answer: All Women Cannot Prevent the Lust of All MenAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09711743439868985297noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-76796782926622132332014-01-23T17:23:24.502-05:002014-01-23T17:23:24.502-05:00the alcohol thing irks me. No, I wouldn't serv...the alcohol thing irks me. No, I wouldn't serve alcohol to a friend if he was a recovering alcoholic! But how does that correlate to me wearing a bikini? I'm not serving my friend anything by wearing a bikini.....its not like, by donning a swimsuit I'm suddenly "serving my friend sex".....sigh. Alcoholic's should not go to bars. Perhaps someone struggling with a sexual problem shouldn't go to a strip club? Or to a beach if they have a problem? Just my thoughts :P <br /><br />I love this article. And I like modesty. But you are right. There are good and bad reasons for modesty and these are all very bad / shaming reasons. Moonofsilverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18072449731164255972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-43859806400162587522014-01-23T16:56:55.413-05:002014-01-23T16:56:55.413-05:00God and I talked. She's pretty cool with my de...God and I talked. She's pretty cool with my decision to wear a bikini. My conscience is clear.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711743439868985297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-23552387381996255042014-01-23T16:40:53.615-05:002014-01-23T16:40:53.615-05:00Now how does this work in light of the popular Chr...Now how does this work in light of the popular Christian belief that you, in fact, do NOT belong to yourself and that anything you do ever is just an extension and reflection of God? The way I was taught that was when Jesus died on the cross, He purchased all of humanity wholesale. You belong to Jesus now, so it is an insult to Jesus to do what you want to do if it doesn't line up with what God wants. What about that?Tinyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12026834116026655293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-70046710960078889982014-01-01T09:34:27.854-05:002014-01-01T09:34:27.854-05:00I think Edith Head summed up modesty once and for ...I think Edith Head summed up modesty once and for all: "Your dresses should be tight enough to show you're a woman, and loose enough to show you're a lady." One sentence. Done.Batgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06639399569651913037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-706258106002076592013-08-28T18:16:05.305-04:002013-08-28T18:16:05.305-04:00I agree, there is a difference between being overt...I agree, there is a difference between being overtly sexual and seductive (tempting), or simply comfortable in your own skin and happy in the body God gave you. <br />@Belle- I like your explanation of being feminist and Christian. I am still struggling with my developing worldview and my perception of myself. It's difficult to do that in such a crazy world and distracting culture. Being a teenager/young adult in such a hyper-sexualized world with confusing messages from my church family makes me feel overwhelmed by the expectations for me to be perfect and uphold these standards of unattainable "dignity" and modesty. Yet I am also supposed to be thankful to God and grateful for the body he has blessed me with, despite being taught to hide it in shame. The mixed messages are so frustrating and I find your blog a refreshing take on everything. I truly appreciate the courage you have to share your thoughts on such sensitive topics, because they help me (and many like me, I'm certain) to see things in a different light than I've always been taught. So thank you for your bravery, honesty, and encouragement. You are a blessing.kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03945282900599064205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-12704625246447795492013-08-18T16:39:04.424-04:002013-08-18T16:39:04.424-04:00YES I agree! I hate that breastfeeding is taboo, e...YES I agree! I hate that breastfeeding is taboo, especially when we see breasts all the time being sexualized in the media. Like uh you guys know that the function of breasts is feeding children right..?Sarah https://www.blogger.com/profile/16187939635121009381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-21097683402854861942013-08-16T11:44:50.634-04:002013-08-16T11:44:50.634-04:00Whenever possible, I try to link to most authorita...Whenever possible, I try to link to most authoritative voice I can find on a subject. If the official source is confusing or overly technical, I link to wikipedia. I also try and link to fellow bloggers on subjective topics. But since I was referring to the Mormon rules against alcohol, clearly I needed to link to the official source listing those rules!<br /><br />Thanks for commenting and adding your own perspective on modesty.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711743439868985297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-66116936952108719582013-08-16T10:44:15.308-04:002013-08-16T10:44:15.308-04:00Hi Kylie, maybe you already know this blog, but I&...Hi Kylie, maybe you already know this blog, but I've been reading http://youngmormonfeminists.org/ and it's really great! I really didn't know much about the LDS church until recently, but this blog has shown some great insight into religious feminism.<br /><br />As a feminist who isn't religious, I think that it can be too easy for me to jump to conclusions and be judgmental about other women's decisions to dress modestly. Thanks for sharing this, it's always important to be reminded that there are a million reasons for doing something and that I should look for the positive before the negative.Sarah https://www.blogger.com/profile/16187939635121009381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-8753621216546060502013-08-16T10:38:41.036-04:002013-08-16T10:38:41.036-04:00Great point that the Church will only change from ...Great point that the Church will only change from within, and I think it's really great that you put value in finding the right balance between these sometimes contrasting things. Sarah https://www.blogger.com/profile/16187939635121009381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-25213969438929164142013-08-15T23:32:59.264-04:002013-08-15T23:32:59.264-04:00I agree with so much of this! Thank you for your f...I agree with so much of this! Thank you for your feminist views on modesty. I'm a Mormon myself and I dress modestly for a variety of reasons, the first being that I believe it's a commandment of God, but I don't dress modestly to make sure my Mormon guy friends don't end up with dirty thoughts. My modesty is for me and God, not for all the men around me. <br />And, as a Mormon, I'd also like to say thanks for linking our name directly to mormon.org. It's so nice to find someone willing to be educated on our faith from the right source, even if you don't believe all the same things that we do. Kyliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00335534605583401618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-6647478811592053622013-08-15T10:14:27.695-04:002013-08-15T10:14:27.695-04:00I agree entirely. Trust me, I did not think of my ...I agree entirely. Trust me, I did not think of my body as sexual until well after I had breasts. If guys saw me and thought that way, I was completely (and happily) clueless. It's also why I'm a proponent of breastfeeding mothers. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711743439868985297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-60118963063846044922013-08-15T10:13:17.586-04:002013-08-15T10:13:17.586-04:00Thank you!!! Yes, that's a good point on the a...Thank you!!! Yes, that's a good point on the alcohol. You can choose to drink or not. You can't choose the appearance of your body.<br /><br />Christianity and feminism are the two "theories" or "organized groups" that I could never leave. Being a Christian feminist is who I am at my core. They're both equally important to me. Christians might think my feminism is too worldly and self-involved. Feminists often think Christianity is too patriarchal and oppressive. But I can't just not believe in God, and I can't just not believe in gender equality. Besides, the Church can only change from within. If I left it entirely, how could I influence it positively?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711743439868985297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-28262488184772217002013-08-07T11:54:12.243-04:002013-08-07T11:54:12.243-04:00Couldn't agree with you more.Couldn't agree with you more.Elle Seeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01700861489513811406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-28860904420181597952013-08-06T19:08:54.122-04:002013-08-06T19:08:54.122-04:00last thought that I forgot to include.. I find it ...last thought that I forgot to include.. I find it really weird that the human body is always seen as a sexual thing. Our bodies are so natural and always present. Obviously then can be very sexual, but they are also good for so so many other things and I find it very odd that they tend to be thought of almost exclusively in a sexual way. Perhaps it's just a result of living in an overly sexualized culture.Sarah https://www.blogger.com/profile/16187939635121009381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487897975553552090.post-86468618655159972312013-08-06T19:06:07.007-04:002013-08-06T19:06:07.007-04:00I love the way that you talk about modesty. I also...I love the way that you talk about modesty. I also think that the difference between this and the alcohol metaphor is that alcohol is an outside thing. My body is ME it's who I am, so it feels downright insulting when people suggest that it is not an appropriate thing. Because it's ME. When I wear things that are revealing it is because they are the things that I like and that make me feel comfortable. It is not with an intent of being sexual. Because of this it is hard for me to see how it is my problem how other interpret my body. I am not trying to tempt anyone, just being there, being me, living in my body. Again, I'm so glad that you discuss these things. Although I'm not religious myself I find the relationship between feminism and religion to be fascinating as well as so important. Sarah https://www.blogger.com/profile/16187939635121009381noreply@blogger.com